What is the good side to it?
It’s been almost a year since the first lockdown. Depending on where you live you had to deal with restrictive regulations for maybe a few weeks or the entire period. I live in Germany and with my full-time job being a sports scientist and personal trainer, I wasn’t even allowed to work for half of the time.
Christmas, Chanukah, Ramadan and Lohri looked different for all of us and so did most people’s birthdays, weddings and unfortunately funerals. This pandemic is a challenge for all of us.
Some were hit harder than others and might not be able to see the least bit of good in these hard times. If you are one of them – that is okay. You will get through this – stronger and braver than you were before. Maybe you don’t have to worry about money or the health of your loved ones, but you still feel off – that is okay, too. You don’t have to build a second career out of scratch or become the fittest version of yourself just because you have time now. This pandemic is a lot. For all of us and for everyone differently.
But maybe you can find something good in all of this craziness. Maybe even a slight change in perspective, moving towards gratefulness for what you do have – will make you feel a bit lighter.
One thing I feel has changed for the better, are the connections to other people – even though we can’t meet in person in the frequency and under the same circumstances as we could before COVID.
People found other ways to communicate and stay connected. From grandparents who are willing and able to attend an online family meeting with their new tablet to more regular phone calls or younger people showing up for their neighbors in need of help. There’s one thing this whole world has in common now and it helps people to unite because they know, they are not alone with the situation. Maybe we can keep this connection and compassion for one another alive – even after the pandemic has ended.
Priorities & Boundaries
The next area is a tricky one. While the first few weeks might have felt like a long-due vacation to some, for most people that feeling didn’t last. Parents are not used to being at home all day – especially not together with the kids. Kids are not used to spending so much time on their own. Couples aren’t used to spending so much time together and many people simply don’t have the space to give everyone enough room.
This can lead to horrible misdeeds, which I acknowledge and don’t mean to whitewash here. But for many of us, this situation offers a chance, too. It’s a good time to figure out your priorities. As a single human being, a couple, a family, a parent, a child. You can learn to implement boundaries that protect your priorities. You can learn this in a safe setting and carry it out in the world when this is over. It is not easy and it needs rules. But here is your chance to grow – on your own and together with your loved ones.
One thing we often do not find the time for is self-care. Whether this means going on a walk, reading a book, taking a bath, playing board games, or bake your favorite cake. Self-care looks different for everyone but is something we all need. And instead of feeling bad for not doing anything productive, try to see the importance of these little gestures of love towards yourself – especially in times like these.
Last but not least – now is the time to tackle all the unfinished tasks of the last months and years. As you have more than two days off with no visitors allowed, it doesn’t matter if you only need a few hours or a few days. You can declutter your apartment, finally, finish those photo albums or build the new kitchen you always wanted.
Don’t feel like doing any of it and just stay in bed instead? All good. Be kind to yourself. Watch your favorite movie and allow yourself that extra big spoon of ice-cream!
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